Just Smile and Wave

What is a good balance of bringing up your infertility and allowing it to be part of your life and it being something not to talk about? In certain circles, I feel like some people don't care what we are going through. Not the unintentionally hurtful conversations that hurt just because others just don't pay attention enough to the thoguhts and feelings of others, but those people who make you feel like they are just too busy and have too much going on for you to be having these problems. That other things are much more important. So then, you just need to smile and pretend like everything is ok and try as much as you can to care with as much of your heart about what's going on with other people's lives. Unfortunately, in my experience it seems to be those closest to us that make me feel this way. I still don't have a solution to this.